When Things Don’t Go As Planned and Why That’s Perfectly Okay!

I don’t know about you, but nine times out of ten, my plans never go as planned. As I’ve had one of those weeks where nothing went as planned, as I was sure I was going to make a fool of myself, I over analyzed everything, and psyched myself out… it turns out everything went well, not according to my plan, but everything turned out alright anyway.

At the end of last week a meeting I had did not go the way I thought it would—at all! I was discouraged and wondered if I was cut out to be a speaker, a writer, and a coach after all. After getting home later than planned, we decided to order pizza. After a very rude encounter with a pizza place that shall not be named, I informed the manager that they lost a customer and I vowed to NEVER order from them again. So we ended up picking up burgers instead at almost 8pm—my poor family was starving!

A few days of gloomy weather, a day of yard sales that ended with only buying a single twenty-five cent book, and general crabbiness on my part, I was exhausted.

A weekly phone call that usually leaves me very motivated and refreshed, ready to tackle the next hurdles left me a bit anxious and wondering what was next. Later that day I was to give a speech and as I went to practice the speech a few hours before I was to present it, I froze. I forgot everything!

As I met with my mentor shortly before my speech we thought it would be a good idea to run through it… nope, nothing happened. I couldn’t speak! By that time my nerves got the best of me, I was overwhelmed thinking I had something to prove to someone and I was a mess.

A few deep breaths later, laughter with some friends, and when it came time to talk—BAM! It all went well. The speech I gave was better than planned.

Isn’t that the way it goes, sometimes we just have to get out of the way to let the magic happen.

A bit cheesy, yes!

But really, as I find myself trying to make things happen I realize that it’s best to stand back sometimes, to let go of the power trip, and let things unfold naturally.

It’s me and my plans that get in the way!

Have you had an experience recently that didn’t go as planned but turned out awesome anyway?When Things Don't Go As Planned

  • November 18, 2015

Creating a Sanctuary at Home

Awww, home sweet home!

Or is it?

Our homes should be a safe haven, a place to whether out the storms, to curl up in, and a place to be ourselves. Is that what your home does for you?

Creating a sanctuary at home is more than pretty things that are nice to look at, although that is part of it. It’s about the atmosphere — are loving thoughts being spoken there? Can friends and family speak openly and honestly? Do you long to come home after a tough day? Is your home tidy?

On the other hand, is you’re home so clean its sterile?

Keeping a clean home is important, but sometimes we go overboard and over clean and make folks uncomfortable when we invite them into our homes. They don’t know if they should touch anything! And heaven forbid they spill something! And how do you react if they do?

What do you want your guests to feel when they are in your home?

Does your home project that?

Ask a few close friends how they feel about your home. Are they anxious or calm? Relaxed and at peace? Or do they feel uptight and on edge?

How can you be sure they feel at home?

Creating A Beautiful Sanctuary

While a big part of creating a sanctuary is the atmosphere, it’s also important for it to look beautiful and inviting. Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, we’re not trying to impress people, we’re simply creating an environment that is pleasing for you — if it makes you comfortable, chances are your friends will be comfortable as well.

If you don’t yet have a home you feel is beautiful, start small. Create one area, one shelf if need be, that is beautiful. Include things that bring you joy; photographs, mementos from vacations or special events, letters from loves ones, candles, and flowers all make wonderfully beautiful decorations to create beauty in our home.

Small changes throughout your home will allow you to slowly create that safe have you can’t wait to get back home to and friends don’t want to leave!

How do you make your home a sanctuary?Creating a Sanctuary at Home

  • November 11, 2015

Mamas, it’s hard! —Encouragement for Overwhelmed Moms

Mamas, I know its hard.

The baby’s crying, there’s teen angst.

The house is upside down, emotions running high.

Remember, this too will pass.

 

Much easier said then to find relief from that thought though,

but you know it’s true.

Some how we always make it out alive and find happiness again.

Even in the midst of utter disappointment and chaos.

 

When the pain is overwhelming,

when your eyes hurt; red and swollen,

when it doesn’t feel like there’s a way out

it will always get better.

 

It’s times like this a simple act of rest is best;

a small gesture — lighting a candle, reading a book, a bubble bath.

Anything to bring a sense of peace,

even when it seems no peace can be found.

 

Sometimes you just need to gather your babies around you,

read a story together, sing a song, say a prayer.

Whatever act brings your peace,

that’s what you need to go do now.

 

And do that often, as often as you need to.

Encouragement for overwhelmed moms

(I felt compelled to share these thoughts today. I have had several readers this week write about what they are going through, I want to remind you all that you are not alone.)

  • November 4, 2015